And you know the girls I’m talking about, the ones who get all the guys, call themselves ugly to fish for compliments, and play dumb. Yet this is what gets me…all that baby talk and “Why do guys always hit on me: ewww” works.
I’ve never been that girl. I don’t know how. It could be the fact I’m too obnoxious about my book smarts and I won’t dumb myself down for a guy. It could be I have enough esteem in my looks to consider myself pretty. It could be the fact I didn’t want to settle.
But this brings me back to a time where my sister’s best friend (who’s both sporty and a looker) had some guy troubles and exclaimed, “I just hate it when guys won’t leave me alone. Like you guys understand.” And me and my sister just looked at each other and laughed saying, “No.”
I guess what I want to point out is I know there are girls out there who want a boyfriend and who will change themselves for a guy and who think no guy will ever like them unless they change and become the shallow girls of the world. But do you really wanna be like them? Do you wanna give up everything that makes you you, everything that makes you tick, everything that makes you beautiful?
Because trust me, it’s not worth it.
And trust me, being one of the those girls at one time, what I can say is: your time will come. And the guy will realize what an amazing person you are for being you. But don’t force that to happen, don’t ever, ever, ever settle.
Just be you. As my friend Julie says, “Just do you”. The most important thing is for you to be happy first, happy with your life and with your self. That way all your uniqueness, your realness, and your beauty will shine through unhindered. And I promise, after that, everything will fall into place, and you won’t have to change a thing.